My Experience Going Speed Dating For The First Time...

27 February 2019

If you follow me on Instagram or have read my latest Sick Tings post then I’m sure you’ll have seen me mention my speed dating escapades... If not, hi, welcome, my name is Becca and I went speed dating at the grand old age of 20. Lol.

Now, I mentioned in my being single post that I’m rather picky, but, I genuinely tried to go into this with an open mind. What’s the worst that could happen?

The whole speed dating thing came about following a conversation I had with Rhiannon on Valentine’s Day. We were talking about things I could do if I was still single on Valentine’s Day in a years time and she suggested I go speed dating. We figured it would probably work quite well for me because a) I like to have a chat and b) I’d speak to lots of people who I potentially wouldn’t have given the chance in other situations.

So, I searched on Facebook on the off chance there were any events coming up and voila... A speed dating event was being held at my uni for charity. Aka regardless of the outcome, money was being raised for charity. What’s there to lose, huh?

I managed to rope two of my single pals to join me and so the three of us spent our evening chatting away to all sorts of different people. The way this event worked was each date lasted 2 minutes and the girls all moved one seat round at the end of the timer. There were twice as many boys as girls (so the odds should have been in our favour) and there were 10 minute breaks every now and again. There were 50 boys in total but we only had time for 36 dates, so it was sort of a lucky dip which people you got to spend your time with. Also, 36 lots of small talk is a lottttt of small talk, let me tell you.

So, the night got off to a good start with a first year music student asking if I like it deep, so that'll give you a great taste of how brilliantly the rest of the night ahead is going to go. In all fairness, he meant deep conversations but I'm not sure 'do you like it deep?' is a good question to ask on a first date, particularly one that's only two minutes long anyway. Thank you, next.

After a few dates it became apparent that there were some patterns starting to emerge. For one, all of the boys seemed to be in foundation, first or second year studying engineering of some sorts and all of the girls seemed to be third year psychology students. Now, I know they say opposites attract but I'm not so sure... Listening to a boy talk about his thermal dynamics module at length is not particularly how I imagine a typical Wednesday night going.

A question that I was asked multiple times, and made me laugh every time, was 'what halls are you in?' Lol sorry boys, can you not tell I'm pretty much the university equivalent of elderly? I graduate in a few months, my halls days are long long gone. My favourite comment of the night, however, came from a very confident male who as soon as I sat down said 'I can tell you're a first year'. Haha, not quite bud. Having spent 20 minutes at the bus stop with a load of freshers the other day I can confirm that I look nothing like a fresher. These eyebags have been brewing for the last 2 and a half years - I certainly don't look fresh out of school. When I asked him why he thought that he said I just seemed 'friendly'... Who knows, huh?

Other memorable dates include two minutes of one boy telling me all of the genres of music he likes in great detail with a few examples from each and nothing else. This ranged from blues to heavy rock to jazz, and I think I said all of about three words, with a few nods here and there. It's safe to say those two minutes didn't fly by.

But, the bit we've all been waiting for... Did Becca meet any suitable bachelors? Well, of the 36 boys I spoke to, I ticked the yes box on my sheet for 2 of them. A 5.5% pass rate, that's errr, promising. I'm yet to hear back whether they yes'ed me back or not but if there are any further developments you will be the first to know. Also, in case you were wondering, the two pals I went with also didn't have particularly successful nights and also had similar pass rates as I did... Perhaps speed dating isn't the way to go, after all.

Have you ever been speed dating?


  1. Sounds like it was an interesting night. Never been speed dating. I actually met my fiancé on Tinder - so don’t rule that out, we’ve been together for 4 years now ♥️♥️♥️

  2. Haha this is so funny! 😂 can’t wait to see if there are any updates! x

  3. Oh, I loved reading your experiences. I cannot wait for next update.

  4. I've never been speed dating but it sounds like such a fun idea, I imagine it'd be a right laugh. It did make me chuckle that someone asked if you liked it deep hahah!

    Lucy | Forever September

  5. Speed dating sounds stressful lol! I’m excited to hear if any of them yes you back!! What are they thinking if they don’t?! Hahaa, but good luck lovely! Just enjoy your single time and someone will pop up when you least expect it xx

  6. I cackled at 'do you like it deep?' I've never gone speed dating but it honestly sounds like fun because even if the date is horrible, it's only a couple of minutes! Fingers crossed someone says yes back, but if not, I'm glad you gave it a good go!

  7. To be fair I would love to go speed dating just for the lols 😂 it sounded funny!

  8. Haha well at least it made a good story! I don't know anyone who's ever gone speed dating its just something that seems to come up in a lot of movies. Fingers crossed one of your two has ticked you too!
    Soph - x

  9. Sounds like an interesting night haha! That situation is so far out my comfort zone!

    Katie | XX

  10. I really enjoyed reading this, I always love your posts! Some parts in this really did make me laugh, I love the way you write! I've never been speed dating, it would be way too fast paced for me haha xo

    Char |

  11. I loved reading this! I don’t think I’ve ever laughed so much while reading a post, your sense of humour is the best! I’m only 16 so while it will be in the distant.. distant future in sure one day I’ll give it a go. Hehe
    Elina |

  12. I really enjoyed reading this post.
    Speed dating sounds so interesting, your experience made me laugh especially the boys assumptions about you! x

  13. It sounds so fun. I would love to try it x

  14. I’d actually hate the whole speed dating thing, I get so nervous on dates I either talk about myself for like 30 mins straight or I hardly speak 🤦🏼‍♀️ It’s drf something for me to avoid!

  15. I've never been speed dating, but it sounds weirdly intriguing! This post made me laugh out loud!

    Emily |


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