Having Skinny Bitch Shouted at Me in the Street

9 May 2018



Lol, so I wish this title was clickbait, it's not. Recently, in this glorious weather we've been having here in the UK, I decided to go for a run into town. The sun was shining, I needed to grab a few bits from the shops and fancied doing something other than revision. So, I put on my gym gear and my trainers and decided to run the 2 and a bit miles into the city center. I wore a t-shirt and cropped leggings, which shouldn't matter, but for the sake of the story, I thought I'd include it.

I got over halfway, albeit after getting some stares from randoms, before another girl, out of absolutely nowhere, shouted 'skinny bitch' at me. I'd never seen this girl before in my life and I certainly didn't know her. Lol, okay hun... I'm not even sure where to start on this one.

Firstly, why even bother shouting at a total stranger, nice things or otherwise?

Secondly, why would you shout something rude at a total stranger unprovoked?

Thirdly, why would you shout something rude at a total stranger unprovoked?

In no way do I need to defend myself here. All I did was go for a run. I wasn't naked and showing off, God forbid, all I did was sweatily jog to the shops to grab some more notepads for revision. I'm not entirely sure where I intended to take this post, I just wanted to address the fact that skinny shaming is very much a thing.

Fat-shaming is often discussed, both on social media and in the press, and quite rightly is just seen as wrong. Skinny-shaming, however, doesn't ever seem to be recognized as a thing? Shouting 'fat bitch'  at a stranger on a jog is taken as a much sincerer crime than shouting 'skinny bitch' and I have no idea why? Both are equally as derogatory, and unnecessary, as each other.

I'm not sure the cause of this apparent dislike to slim people, is it jealousy? Who knows. All I know is that it's vile. I don't see the issues girls have with other girls' bodies?

I have a fast metabolism, am 5 foot 8, wear a size 8 and eat like a horse. Can we not just celebrate this (whilst it lasts) rather than hurl abuse at me in the street?

I obviously didn't say anything in return to this polite, friendly young lady in question, just carried on running safely in the knowledge that I'm not an asshole. I wouldn't be nasty to total strangers on the street. I wouldn't body shame a total stranger. I'm a decent human being. It would have been so easy to have turned around and hurled abuse at her, you know, eye for an eye and all that. But no, why would I stoop to that level? I'm perfectly healthy and am totally happy with my body, and the way I look. Shame this girl wasn't on the same wavelength.

Now, some people may not see an issue in what this lovely girl said to me, and think that I should take it as a compliment. No, hun. It's not a compliment. It's degrading. it's unnecessary and it's just plain rude. 

Can we all plzzzzz stop with the skinny shaming and just all get along?

10 comments

  1. It’s honestly disgusting that some people think it’s acceptable to hurl abuse at anyone, especially those they don’t even know!! Jealousy is the only answer but I totally agree that skinny shaming needs to be talked about much more! X

    Kate// itskaterose.com

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    1. Yeah, I was just so baffled that she felt the need to say anything, let alone shout at me!! X

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  2. I am so sorry that you had a total stranger shout this at you, completely uncalled for. I've always been quite 'skinny' and have horrible comments thrown my way when I was at school so I totally understand this. It's never okay to body shame anybody!

    Lucy | Forever September

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    1. I just really don't understand the need for it all? Why can't we all just get on with our own lives without worrying about the size of other people?? Not cooooool X

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  3. Calling someone a skinny bitch is not a compliment! Skinny shaming is a thing, what do people not understand about metabolism and genetics? Some people are just naturally skinny and that’s conpletely ok! Thanks for sharing this Becca! There needs to be more awareness for skinny shaming tbh. Not everyone is built to have thick thighs and muscly arms 🤷🏾‍♀️ I think a lot of people’s body views are tainted by the media, they see one woman’s body and think that every woman has to look like that when in fact that body type may not be achievable for themselves or other woman. You’re never going to get an hour glass figure if you are pear shaped, unless you get surgery.

    Fran | www.franciscarockey.co.uk

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    1. Yes, yes, yes!! I second all of this Fran, always speaking truth aren't ya! X

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  4. I'm so glad you shared this, because you're absolutely right. The thing that gets me is it's always other women who do this, the same women who proclaim other women tear them down... I have a really similar blog post that's been in my drafts for months, but this has made me think I need to revisit!

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    1. Yeah, it's such a shame. Aaaaah definitely post it and send me the link when it's up!! X

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  5. I'd love to say "I can't believe this" but I can, because I've had the exact same words thrown at me. I'm the same as you, I have a fast metabolism and I eat like a horse. It didn't bother me much because I loved my body. But then I lost a lot of weight because of medication I was taking for a health problem. I had to wear a belt with size 6 jeans. That's when those comments really got to me. I find it disgusting that skinny-shaming is seen as being perfectly acceptable. I'm so glad and proud that you published this post. You and your skinny frame are absolutely beautiful!

    Han xo | www.safehavenanonymousletters.co.uk

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  6. I am so sorry they did that!!! That was so unnecessary and rude and there was no need for that and I wish people learn that shaming someone at all is terrible. I can’t even imagine how embarrassing and humiliating it would have been and knowing myself I would have probably cried. There is nothing wrong with being who they are. That person needs to take a long look into their themselves because they may have some deep seeded insecurities within themselves.

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